“What thinking must I engage to feel 5% more joy today?”
Building and maintaining positive relationships in your life, while working long hours at work and then taking care of family at home, is a huge challenge. In this episode learn the six tools (plus one bonus tool) that Indrani, Amy, and Jeremie use everyday with the important people in their lives.
02:35 Indrani shares the definition of a boundary and how to use this definition with people in your life.
05:40 Amy shares how to use empathy when listening.
09:48 Jeremie shares how to use 10 minute breaks to change roles in your life and be more present.
16:25 Indrani discusses how to identify when you are being triggered.
21:40 Amy explains the difference between being self-FULL and being selfish
26:47 Bonus tool: “What story am I making up about this?”
28:00 Jeremie asks the question: “Is what I am about to say or do going to improve this relationship?”
31:10 Summary of all six tools and the bonus tool
Indrani would love to share some of her meditations with you, so keep an eye on the ILF blog for our ongoing meditation series, which begins with today’s meditation. Her desire is to assist the members of the Indrani’s Light Foundation family a way to begin a meditation practice, if you do not have one at this time. If you have a meditation practice, these weekly meditations will help you to work on living a brighter life.
Today’s meditation is called, “Being Present.” This is a meditation that will enable you to be present with whatever comes up. Are you experiencing feelings that are stopping you in your tracks?
Indrani wants you to just NOTICE and be aware of your emotions and behavior, without judgment. This can help you be PROactive in your life, and not REactive. This is only a 3-minute meditation to get you present with your current emotions….. try it. It’s only 3 minutes.
“Being Present” Meditation Recording
Welcome to Episode #6 of the Live a Brighter Life Podcast!
In this episode of the Live a Brighter Life Podcast Indrani and Andrea discuss being present. Specifically you will:
Drivers license, passport, social security card, voters card, military ID, membership card, marriage license, green card. All these cards and documents to say who we are! No wonders we identify ourselves by titles, experiences, positions, status, you name it. We are in a world where we are identified as who we are by a card or piece of paper.
If by the paperwork you need further identification of this person they tell you:
I am a doctor
I am a mother
I am a wife
I am a foreigner….
I do not understand why at a cocktail party I get introduced “..and I would like you to meet Dr. So-And-So. ” Well so this person is a doctor, if he is at the cocktail party he is not doctoring, so does the title matter?
Then to go one step deeper you discover that the person identifies themselves as:
I am a victim
I am a martyr
I am a survivor….
Do we need all this identification?
Doesn’t just being present identify us?
I think that perhaps we are scared to shed those layers of identity in fear of not finding anything. Kinda like peeling away the layers of an onion. If each layer is an identity, if we shed the layers there is nothing in the center. But really it is not that there is nothing there, if we peel our layers of identification off, its that we have to just face the truth of who we really are. The basic essence of ourselves.
Here is something to try, next time you meet a person can you see them for who they are, just a person, and not the identification or title?
It is refreshing to just be with a person with all the identities dropped.
We are people. We all eat, breath, sleep, etc. We all want to be happy, healthy, peaceful and live with ease.
There is no card for that.