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My lesson from identical twins, 25 years in the making.
I have known a set of identical twins from the moment of their birth. We have shared hours and days and weeks together over the course of their 25 glorious years on earth. They are as close as my own children and I love and respect them as much as I do my own.
I have never been able to tell them apart. My daughter has ALWAYS been able to tell them apart. She, my daughter, would get so frustrated with me when I would keep asking her which was which.
She tried to point out all the small details of their faces, the shape of the eyes, the difference in the smiles, the profile differences and still, as hard as I tried to look to see, all the details evaded me.
I remained blind.
Then, a few weeks ago, I had the lovely chance to spend five glorious days with them.
The first day I was still blind….I could not see the differences. (I had actually given up many years ago, because I was sure I would never get it.)
Then, as clear as day, I woke up the second day and I saw it.
I cannot tell you what I saw. I just had a shift in perspective and RIGHT there, I said, “Are you Jackie?” (Name changed to protect the twins.)
She said YES!
I could not believe it.
I asked again a few hours after and again I nailed it.
The next day, I nailed it again.
I do not understand what shifted in my head, but something very significant did and I know that I will always be able to tell them apart.
I think that this paradigm shift is what needs to happen with women who accept abuse.
They must keep looking for ways to recognize that which they have been blinded. They may have been blinded by childhood abuse, or by acts of war, or some other horrible history.
They must be able to see through what they have accepted as fact.
Each woman is the ONLY one who can shift her perspectives.
Thousands of experts can point out the problems such as:
- No one has the right to hit you
- No one has the right to rape you
- No one has the right to control you
- No one has the right to blame you for their anger
I could go on and on…
It would not matter, because unless something shifts inside of each individual person, they would not be able to escape the abuse.
I will keep doing the work I do.
Indranis Light will keep putting up blogs, sending out recordings and teaching in shelters IN THE HOPE that some people somewhere will be able to make the shift and begin to see the SIGNIFICANCE of their individuality.
When the shift happens, when people see that THEY are worthy, NO ONE will be able to take it away and they will be able to change the relationship.
They will, like I did, say “Is that you?”
They will say, “Yes, it is me and I am worth MORE than putting up with abuse. I refuse to accept it another day longer.”
I will never give up on all the women out there who are looking for the little hints about their worth and I hope they tell me when they figure it out.
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Love & light,