I was having a lazy morning the other day and as I flipped through channels I came across one of those Judge shows.
I don’t remember who the judge was BUT I do remember what the case was.
Woman: He threw a brick at my car and broke my windshield.
Man: She made me do it, because she makes me so mad.
Judge: Tell me exactly what happened, Sir.
Man: She is always running around and makes me so jealous and she is always going out at night……
Judge to woman: Tell me Ma’am, do you go out a lot at night?
Woman: Yes your Honor, I am a party planner and I have to stay at the event. I have been doing this for 3 years and I keep telling him that I am not fooling around….
I could not believe what I was hearing…right in front of me was the unraveling of a relationship because of raging jealousy and out of
control anger. This woman was lucky that this man had not already maimed or killed her.
The woman said she had seen this out of control anger but kept trying to reason with him.
She kept telling him how faithful she was and he just never believes her.
SHE GOT LUCKY!
SHE GOT OUT!
All of the signs were there and she did not add them up, UNTIL the shit hit the fan…the BRICK hit THE CAR!
Thankfully the brick did NOT hit her!
Abuse starts and ends the same way:
1. Incident sets the abuser off
2. The act of abuse
3. The honeymoon phase.
Yes, it is that easy… there is always a trigger, the actual violence and the “Oh baby, I am so sorry”…
It is not so easy to leave, and that makes the abuser gain strength.
The longer you stay the more strength the abuser gains.
If someone is throwing, hitting, slapping, raping, dragging, cuffing, etc…try to get out.
Call the National Hotline…1-800-799-SAFE or visit http://www.thehotline.org/
Love and light,