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Brighter Life Bit #6: Which of the four boundary types do you have?

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ILF_Wtagline_Logo copyYou can listen to the original teaching at 61 minutes and 00 seconds of the Class 1 recording. You can download the audio from iTunes here or from the ILF website here.

What types of personal boundaries are there? Nina Brown identifies four types of boundaries:

Soft: when your boundary merges with other people’s boundaries and is not clearly defined by YOU.

Rigid: when your boundary is unwavering, closed or walled off so no one can get close physically or emotionally.

Spongey: a combo of soft and rigid. You are unsure of what to let in and what to keep out. Your boundary changes in different situations.

Flexible: You have control over what to let in and what to keep out. Your boundary takes care of you and keeps you safe, but you can alter the boundary consciously if you feel the situation is right.

With these boundaries in mind ask yourself: Where are you with each of your boundaries? Soft, rigid, spongey, or flexible?

As you answer this question do not say “I should know better”, instead say “I did such a good job there with my ______ boundary, I wonder if the next time I meet this person what would using a flexible boundary look like”

By reflecting on your soft, rigid, and spongey boundaries you can begin the loving process of shifting them toward healthier flexible boundaries, always remembering to be compassionate with yourself.

What is one boundary that you would like to transform into a flexible boundary? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

Brighter Life Bit #5: Crossed Boundaries, watch for these signs

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ILF_Wtagline_Logo copyYou can listen to the original teaching at 52 minutes and 33 seconds of the Class 1 recording. You can download the audio from iTunes here or from the ILF website here

Continuously broken personal boundaries will have wide ranging effects on your entire life, and those you love. “Go to the movies” and watch some of your own footage to see if any of these broken boundary symptoms are showing up for you:

  • Feelings of guilt, depression, and humiliation
  • Feeling confused, unsafe, or fearful
  • A loss of confidence and ability to trust intuition
  • Starting to question your values and beliefs
  • Physical exhaustion and constantly getting sick

Boundary related stress, over time, will also have an effect on everyone around you as they witness your stress and the physical and spiritual toll this stress causes.

Write down the boundaries that are being crossed, and the different ways that these crossed boundaries are effecting the loved ones in your life, then share some of your responses in the comments below.

LABL 011: Indrani’s Story and Lessons From a Broken Singing Bowl

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ILF_Wtagline_Logo copyWelcome to Episode #11 of the Live a Brighter Life Podcast!

In this episode of the Live a Brighter Life Podcast Indrani is interviewed by Shawn Shepheard. You will learn:

  • the back story of how Indrani’s Light was named and began
  • Why Indrani doesn’t have a choice in what she does
  • The answer to the question: Why you Indrani?
  • The story of the Broken Singing Bowl

And SO much more!

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Brighter Life Bit #4: Going to the Movies

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ILF_Wtagline_Logo copyYou can listen to the original teaching at 33 minutes and 00 seconds of the Class 1 recording. You can download the audio from iTunes here or from the ILF website here:

If there is one tool you take away from the first Live a Brighter Life class, this is the one to keep close at hand, and use as often as needed. Indrani calls it Going to the Movies:

  1. Choose a person in your life you have not been able to stand up to.
  2. Imagine this person crossing one or more of your personal boundaries.
  3. Do nothing but observe yourself in this situation. Watch as if you are at the movies, watching someone who looks like you and acts like you.
  4. Notice what this character is doing while the boundary is being broken. How are they standing or sitting? What are they doing with their hands, eyes, mouth?
  5. Now notice what the character is thinking and feeling. What thoughts are running through their head? What emotions are they feeling?

Now grab a piece of paper, a word document, or your journal and answer these questions:

  • What are the personal boundaries being crossed?
  • How are you reacting to these boundaries being crossed?
  • What are you communicating non-verbally and verbally? What are you holding inside?
  • You are the director and script writer of your life: after watching your “film”, what new role would you like to play?

Share your answers to these questions in the comments section below and we can work together to find your new role in the next movie

Brighter Life Bit #3: Unhealthy Personal Boundaries

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ILF_Wtagline_Logo copyYou can listen to the original teaching at 21 minutes and 00 seconds of the Class 1 recording. You can download the audio from iTunes here, or from the ILF website here.

A great place to start when defining and building your personal boundaries is to look at the unhealthy personal boundaries you may have in your life. Things like:

  • Going against a personal value or right in order to please others
  • Giving as much as you can for the sake of giving
  • Letting others define you

Here is a great exercise to use to help you identify the boundaries you need to start working on:

List the ten people in your life that annoy you the most and explore the boundary that is being broken in each situation. Write that boundary down and post it in the comments below.

Brighter Life Bit #2: What is your definition of a personal boundary?

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ILF_Wtagline_Logo copyYou can listen to the original teaching at 10 minutes and 55 seconds of the Class 1 recording. You can download the audio from iTunes here or from the ILF website here.)

Indrani has an incredible definition for personal boundaries:

“Guidelines, rules, or limits created by a person for herself that are reasonable, safe, and permissible ways for other people to treat her, as well as how she will respond when someone steps outside those limits”

Using this new definition of a personal boundary write out some of the physical, mental, and spiritual boundaries that you have created (and are enforcing) in your life.

Now, write out some physical, mental, and spiritual boundaries that you have NOT created in your life that may be causing problems for you and your relationships.

We would love it if you shared your responses below so we can all learn from each other’s responses.

Brighter Life Bit #1: Focusing on the positives

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ILF_Wtagline_Logo copyThe Live a Brighter Life curriculum is filled with so much rich content, Team ILF decided it would be a great idea to start sharing smaller, digestible, “bits” of the curriculum with all of you.

Let’s get started right now with a little activity from the first LABL class. You can listen to Indrani teaching this exercise by downloading or listening to the LABL Class One recording and fast forwarding to the 10 minute and 55 second mark. You can download the audio from iTunes here or from the ILF website here.

Take a moment right now and do the following:

  1. Write your name, date, and time on a piece of paper, in a word document, or in a journal.
  2. Write three positive adjectives that describe you in this moment.
  3. Pick a time of day.
  4. For the next seven days (or longer, of course) at the time you picked, return to your paper, document, or journal, and write the three positive adjectives that describe you.
  5. At the end of the seven days (or end of each week if you continue doing this) review your adjectives for the week, then write. Write whatever comes up for you after reading those adjectives.

We tend to focus on the negatives in our life and beat ourselves up far too much. This exercise helps stop our “internal abuser” and start to focus on our positive traits.

Now, share the first three positive adjectives you wrote down and any thoughts on this exercise in the comments section here. We would love to read your responses!

LABL 010: Hope and the Importance of Maybe

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ILF_Wtagline_Logo copyWelcome to Episode #10 of the Live a Brighter Life Podcast!

In this episode of the Live a Brighter Life Podcast Indrani interviews Mark Silver. You will learn:

  • The importance of taking time to give your best answer
  • How to create something healthy out of dysfunction
  • The importance of both hope and despair
  • Why going from “no” to “yes” feels impossible
  • Why going from “no” to “maybe” is the first step

You can find out more about Mark Silver at www.heartofbusiness.com

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